We are all drowned into relationships in one way or the other. As a children to parents, as friends, as partners, as parents and so on. Human life feels impossible and incomplete without having good relationships. So what makes these relationships tick?
You know the age old concept of the barter system? You give something and I give something else to you in return. (The perceived value of the exchange is even). I feel real world relationships are also very similar. We all are in relationships where we give something and get something back. As a parent, I feel the joy of spending time with my child and the child leans on us as they grow up. As friends, we add value to each other’s life be it learning, or listening, or making memories together, among many other things. As partners, we support each other in every step of life.
So in essence, the most successful relationships are the ones where it a win-win for both the parties. Either emotional or physical or monetary, there has to be a value driven exchange for a relationship to last long. And if you have a lot more to give than take, no problem… just keep giving because in the larger scheme of life, your luck surface will increase with more giving. Things will come back in one way or the other. And importantly, if you are in a toxic relationship where you are being extracted without your willingness, get out of them asap.
Find the relationships that give you joy in life. Find people or things with whom you can have meaningful transactions. Do everything that keeps you joyful!